Sometimes crossed-over spirits want to show up just to say they're present and would like to be remembered by someone amongst their family and/or friends. For the crossed-over loved one, that may be reason enough to show up. Any crossed- over spirit directly or indirectly connected to a client has the potential to show up, and we don't even have to know the reason behind it. As a medium, my job is to get out of my own way so that I can as accurately, clearly, and ethically relay what is given. I'm just a conduit/bridge, and definitely am not always told why someone showed up and why someone did not.
When a client asks for a specific piece of evidential info from a crossed-over spirit and doesn't get it, this can lead to self-doubt that a connection has even been made with the Other Side. Consider thinking about this in this way - as a medium, I am not here to control the process. And by demanding for something specific that crossed-over spirits are either not willing to or cannot give at that time, shows we're trying to control the process. We can ask. But this is why Spirit has relayed for me to say to the client, "Don't throw the baby out with the bath water." If a detail is missing, or off, or unknown, or deemed wrong by the client, know that it's the big healing picture that counts. Some clients aren't capable of understanding some messages at the time the reading is given, and so we trust things will unfold later. I don't get clients too often regarding the following, but Spirit will sometimes bring them in just to remind me about the Guide's teachings: The client received a HUGE amount of evidential information from all sorts of crossed-over family and friends. At the end of the reading, Spirit relayed to the client that certain family members were positively evolving on the other side. The client said in bitter response, "Why should I care? They treated me poorly." And Spirit responded, "Because these relationships are eternal and it's for everyone's best interest to care." Also, this same client pooh-poohed all the evidential info brought through because he didn't get a message that he wanted from a beloved sister (control issues, this time on the part of the client). Very sad, really. He missed the whole healing kit and kaboodle, and all because he wanted what he wanted when he wanted it. That's not how mediumship works, at least not with me as the facilitator. The client cannot control the reading and the medium cannot control the reading. It's not our job to do so. As a medium, it's my job to relay what is presented via Guides (who help orchestrate) and crossed-over spirits, to the best of our abilities. For clients, it's their job to be as open-minded and open-hearted as possible, to keep the energy clear and flowing. It is then that the client will receive a reading that is helpful, healing, meaningful, and relevant.
